Everybody dreams. I am myself a dreamer and a big one at that! It is very easy for me to dream big, to think of the most ridiculous things and experiences that I would like to have. The reality however, is that as easy it is to dream, the harder it is to achieve that dream. Achieving dreams is easier if you Dream Right instead of Dreaming Big!
What does dreaming right exactly mean?
Dreaming right is having dreams that are in alignment to your priorities
This means having relevant dreams at relevant times. Any sane person would agree that with changing times, our dreams change. What I might dream of as a 22 year old is completely different from what my dream will be when I turn 32. At 22, my dream might be to backpack Europe while at 32, it could very well be to own a house. Both relevant and both big in their own ways.
Dreaming right means living life on your own terms and at your own pace rather than living the one that others expect out of you
Most people dream of becoming billionaires. It is OKAY to not be most people.
The number one regret for most people on their deathbed is that they wished that they had the courage to live the life they wanted and not the life that others expected out of them. You will find a lot of books, blog posts and articles around dreaming big but almost nothing about dreaming right. So prevalent is this thinking that it is always frowned upon to not have a BHAG (Big Hairy Audacious Goal)!
How big is big? Who defines big?
Dreaming Big seems to be the hot trend right now. You just have to google dream big and you will be flooded with advice and stories of inspiration. What people tend to forget is that their dream does not have to be big, to be perfect. I personally know people who only want a steady stream of income and are very happy with that.
Does that mean they have settled for less?
Does that mean they have given up on their dreams?
One could argue that it does but on the flip side, it could also mean that their dream is to be able to backpack around the world and their current job/income allows that. Big is a normative term and can mean different things to different people. With the exposure to social media today, it becomes very easy to be distracted from your current priorities and to often dream big about things which might not otherwise matter or are not aligned to your priorities, making the concept of dreaming right even more important and relevant.
Not choosing relevant goals can often lead to personal chaos, which then in turn can spiral very quickly into the person being depressed and unhappy. I have been a victim of this, which is why I was glad when I came across this post in the local newspaper. It could not have been timed better with the new year having just started.
We should probably change the adage Dream Big to Dream Right! The positive side effect of doing this would be a happier human race!
Dreaming big does more harm than good, generally because it often leads to dissatisfaction and frustration. Dreaming right is dreaming with actual goals and milestones attached to that dream, eventually leading us to achieve that dream and lead a more satisfied and happier life.